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I was contacted by someone earlier today who expressed that they needed some advice on how they were feeling. They expressed to me that they often feel like they have missed out on something in life, which makes them sad. I’ve heard this often, so I wanted to share a few words about this. When […]

I’ve worked with people in the past who were suffering from depression, and had an exercise in which I asked them to focus on something enjoyable; a time when they really had fun and a great time. Each time I’ve asked someone to do this, I’ve always noticed the pleasant look on their face, not […]

P. T. Barnum said, ” The noblest art is that of making others happy”. I couldn’t agree more. There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others. How you make others feel about themselves says a lot about you. You will find in life that […]

Many humanistic psychologist believe that personal choices are key factors in the many possible outcomes of our lives. Other theorist believe that the opinion that we have our ourselves is of the most extreme importance, because we tend to engage in those activities and experiences in our lives which seem to validate the opinion that […]

A favorite Zen story of mine, that I like to share with my karate students is called “Muddy Road”. It goes something like this: Two monks, Tanzan and Ekido were once traveling together down a muddy road while walking on a 20 mile journey to their temple. The road was muddy due to an earlier […]

In my karate school, we have a Code of Ethic that says, ” I will give so much time to the improvement of myself that I will have no time to criticize others”. It is easy to criticize and point out the faults of another person, and sometimes a challenge to see the good in […]

As you move towards a new year, remember the lessons that you’ve learned this year, and the positive changes you will make moving forward. There may come a time when you will need to walk away from all the senseless drama, spiteful criticisms, misguided opinions, and people who create it, and surround yourself with positive […]

Benjamin Franklin said, “The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.” Do you tend to consistently pursue happiness or do you find yourself at times focusing on what you don’t have or lack? Our minds are naturally drawn to focus on lack and what we don’t currently […]

No one ever dies from a snake bite. It’s the venom that continues to pour through your system after the bite that ends up destroying you. Choosing to hold on to resentment is like allowing venom to run through your body. I believe there are no justified resentments, regardless of what you’ve been through. Someone […]

We’ve all heard the expression that Christmas is not just about giving and receiving gifts, it’s about the spirit of Christmas, which brings about love, kindness, and generosity, among many other emotions and positive actions. But regardless, each year, many individuals continue to overextend themselves financially, as they charge up those credit cards, feeling compelled […]